Meet the Thengezas

Meet the Thengezas

I want to introduce you to a very special family—the Thengezas. The oldest girl in the bright pink shirt is Marita. She’s twenty-six and takes care of all her siblings through temp jobs, washing clothes, and cleaning houses. She is doing everything she can, but she simply cannot provide enough for all eight siblings on…

Share the fear

Share the fear

(I wrote this five years ago, but it seems to be relevant today, so…) Ah, the season of scares! It’s upon us. Whether you love Halloween or pretend it doesn’t exist, much of the world is preparing for something frightening at this time of year. If you look up the history of Halloween, you’ll find…

Forgiveness

Forgiveness

Let’s talk about forgiveness—or, in this case, lack of forgiveness and how it weighs us down. I’m writing a memoir and have wrestled with this topic over recent years as part of that project, because who wants to read three hundred pages of unresolved issues? Let me share with you what I’ve learned—and am learning. First…

Fruit Flies

Fruit Flies

My kitchen is overrun with fruit flies. I have vinegar traps set, but they seem to serve more as refueling stations for the tiny pests to congregate and laugh at me—and to make more fruit flies. Our daughter-in-law walks around with one of those racket-shaped bug zappers, lighting the house up with satisfying little electrical…